A Change in Perspective
You know that feeling inside when you apply for a job and wait impatiently to hear back, but then you get the dreaded email saying, “thanks but no thanks”. That feeling of rejection hurts. Go through this cycle of rejection multiple times, and it can bring you down for a long time.
Rejection has the power of derailing us from our potential. The emotions that come with being rejected can keep us stuck where we are and hold us hostage. They can debilitate and demoralize us from ever taking a step forward, but I have recently realized that we are the ones that give rejection its power, and only we are the ones that can take it away.
I used to get sad and down whenever I experienced rejection in any form. I would question my self-worth and create stories in my mind that kept me locked up, unable to move forward. If I stayed in that mind state too long, I would eventually spiral downward and feel depressed for an extended period.
As I look back now, I was approaching life with an outcome-dependent mindset, which means I was placing my hopes on the success or failure of that single activity. If the result was what I wanted, I would feel happy and confident. If the result was not what I wanted, I would feel sad. The result was the deciding factor in how I would think about myself, which got me into trouble.
I learned about the idea of being outcome-independent through my coach, Oli Anderson, who helped me become aware of this pattern in my life and suggested one way to break free from it was by becoming outcome-independent. I realized that being dependent on the outcome got me into all those downward spirals and inner struggles I would go through in life and my career.
Now I am changing my mindset and becoming outcome-independent in everything I try. If what I try works, then great; if it doesn't, then I can move on to other opportunities that better align with my goals. This way, I don't get caught up in the outcome.
I have also started layering how I approach life with an abundance mindset, which is the idea that there are infinite opportunities in the world for us, and we don't need to depend and hope on a single outcome.
A change in perspective is needed to set ourselves free and become outcome-independent to achieve our true creative potential.
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